Camo What?

So several months back, I got a little over-confident during a date night with my fiance. I thought that there was no way he could be better at bowling than me. However, 2 hours, 9 games of bowling, a crazy bet and a hand scribbled and signed contract later, I discovered something...I stink at bowling. But even worse, I really stink at making fair bets. What did I bet you ask? The Wedding Theme. Out of all the things I could have bet, I chose the wedding theme. My fiance of course was oh-so-generous and made sure that it was a theme he knew I could work with, I mean what girls dream wedding isn't Mossy Oak Break-Up? Well...mine for starters. Or at least it wasn't.

At first I thought I was doomed. I couldn't imagine a camouflage wedding. My dream wedding included a formal sit down dinner, perfectly chosen complimentary colors, and beautiful red roses everywhere. It did not include camouflage. But I try to always be a woman of my word and decided that since I was the one who suggested the bet in the first place it wouldn't be right for me to try to renegotiate now.

It may sound silly to some, but letting my fiance choose the wedding theme completely rocked my world, in ways much deeper than what design the invites would be in order to match his favorite pattern of Mossy Oak.

Suddenly instead of trying to fit my fiance into my plan for my dream wedding, he and I were working together to figure out plans for our dream wedding.  It was the first time that he and I really had something big, something major, that was ours and our alone to figure out. Instead of the wedding being about me and my ideas, it became about us and our ideas. One of my greatest faults is my tendency to be self absorbed. So having to fit myself into his plans and ideas about the wedding which is traditionally "bride territory" was a major curve ball.

Somewhere along the road though, I've started to like it. He and I are learning how to work as a team and make major decisions together. We're learning how to compromise, learning how to argue fairly, and me, I'm learning how to fit my life inside of his. More and more each day, with each decision we make together I feel this partnership forming and being reinforced. I feel reassured knowing that he's got my back and knowing that I don't have to make the tough decisions alone.


Then again, I guess in at least one way, I already knew that. :)